Assertiveness #1 The Basics

This set of essays outlines one of my favorite and frequently recommended skill sets – basic assertiveness.  These skills have been critical to my success as a professional and [...] Continue Reading…

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Assertiveness #2 Your Assertive Rights



Assertive Right I.  You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself. You [...] Continue Reading…

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Assertiveness #3 — Verbal Coping Skills



Now that you know your assertive rights, you need to learn how to enforce them through assertive behavior.  It will do little good to say, “Stop manipulating me!”  [...] Continue Reading…

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The Basics of Addiction, Part 1

What follows is the summary of Addictive Thinking, a book on addiction by Abraham Twerski, M.D., and Craig Nakken, M.S.W.  It is an overview of addictive thinking – the [...] Continue Reading…

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The Basics of Addiction, Part 2

VII.      Dealing with Conflict

A chemically confused mind is oblivious to reality while generating a lot of conflict.  Low self-esteem creates fear and anxiety, much of which is actually warranted [...] Continue Reading…

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The Basics of Addiction, Part 3

XVI.     Managing Feelings

Addicts have great difficulty managing their feelings.  This holds for positive and negative feelings.  Some Addicts use chemicals to get high, others to feel normal.  Depression is [...] Continue Reading…

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Awhile back an executive asked me about a subordinate manager who was constantly late to meetings, tardy with assignments and in general was not getting on-board with the rest [...] Continue Reading…

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Specialists vs. Generalists

So how many angels can dance on the head of a pin? [...] Continue Reading…

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